This is the beauty of my life, the fact that I have fallen many times, but I am not a failure...

In this game of life, there have been times when I placed my whole being into something and it “failed”. There have been times when I placed my being into something, and it did well. However, whether it failed or was accomplished, I must admit, they have all been short-lived. Could they have placed me in areas where I would be deemed “successful” today? I would have to say yes. Look, what I’ve accomplished in my lifetime has not been small at all. But as I age, I have realized that it’s not my talent that I should solely rely upon but my consistency, my relationships, my tenacity, and my boundaries when it comes to who I am.

Many people who know me have written me off when it comes to my talent, and I do not blame them at all. Trust me, NOT AT ALL. I am quite aware of the mistakes that I have made over my lifetime, but I am also aware of the wisdom I have gained. Listen, a young person with the gift of words and creativity, but full of naïveté and wondering eyes can be a recipe for disaster without the right mentor and direction. However, to my credit, I don’t feel any wasted time and loss, but I do feel that I have gained much wisdom to teach others.

I'm not going to downplay myself and say that I haven't achieved a lot in the music and professional industry, but I will say that I’ve gained so much more clarity in life. In my so-called failures, I’ve learned how to balance my relationships and be brave about my needs and wants. I’ve gained clarity on what I should sacrifice and what I shouldn’t, and I’m also teaching others how not to fall into the same traps. Listen, this isn't your regular try to make something good out of the bad for me, like for real, this is really what makes me joyful. Teaching others what I needed.

When I counsel the youth around me, my words resonate deeply because it’s not just words being exchanged, but it’s real-life experience. Real-life experience that could help them avoid the same hurts and pains of this life that I had. We’re not born knowing how to navigate through people, but we surely can teach others how to. This is the beauty of my life, the fact that I have fallen many times, but I have not deemed myself a failure. I just keep popping up and doing me, regardless of what it looks like, regardless of what people say, and regardless of how I feel about my past accomplishments. This is life, and life didn’t give me any promises of success, but it has given me a bucket full of wisdom and a beautiful web of connections. To me, this is what I call “success”! I’m successful because I can give to others what I didn’t have, and that’s direction, strength, wisdom, hope, patience, believability, love, and encouragement.

I spent countless nights learning the psychology of relationships, how to counsel others, and how to be brave with my nos. So, when I say I have no problem filling the void of what you need in those areas, I really mean it. Life is not easy, and what makes it harder is when you have no one who’s patient with your growth and with you as a person. Let me be that person for you as you get your words down on your paper, let me help you express what you desperately needed from others!

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